Everything about our "reality" is illusion, and that illusion is created by our belief, attitude, desire, imagination, and expectation. Only our eternal spirits are actually real. The only aspect of "reality" which affects our essence, our eternal spirit, is our experience while playing Leela, the game of life. The whole game of life is based on supposition. What you believe to be true is true. We as spirits create our body and our physical universe to play in, to enjoy, to experience, to learn, to grow in. And the way we do that is by interacting with the illusions created by other beings, and by experiencing our emotions, our reactions to our experiences, the impact which other beings are having upon us. The only thing which is actually real about "reality" is how we "feel" about it.
Zen teaches that detachment is the ultimate goal... to become emotionally neutral about the entire illusion. not, as Mr. Spock of Star Trek fame strove to be, devoid of emotion... in denial of emotion... but to experience it without becoming attached to it, either positively (desire, lust, possessiveness, greed, etc.) or negatively (hate, aversion).
In short, everything is simply a matter of belief. The reality you believe to be real is the reality you will experience. Those experiences "should" ultimately teach you that the universe, or more aptly, source is loving and giving... and that any experiences you have to the contrary are by your own choice. Now if you believe that you have no choice, that your existence is predestined, then you may simply relax and enjoy the ride, and bother to read no further. For then nothing said here will make any difference. It is said that everything about your life is a metaphor for your relationship with your Higher Self, with source. The goal is to evolve, improve, and make consciously aware, your living loving relationship with your spirit, and with the Source. You are divine. You are of source. All the answers are to be found in your own heart. For it is there that your Higher Self connects into physical reality. And it is through your Higher Self that you connect to the Source, the Supreme Being.
A spirit creates a body to play in, to enjoy in, to love in, to be loved in, and then gets lost in attachments to physical reality. To successfully walk the path to enlightenment is simply to learn to be a spirit in a body without being attached to being in that body, or to any of the experiences you have in your body. Mahamaya, the great illusion, of time and space, has no reality or significance, other than how that experience impacts your spiritual essence, and how you impact others. Hopefully that experience and impact is loving, rather than hurtful, growthful and educational rather than stuck. We each come into an incarnation with specific lessons we have chosen to learn, and perhaps with some karma from past incarnations, and perhaps we create some new karma along the way. The first purpose is to clear your karma, to set yourself free of the past. The second purpose is to set yourself free of your expectations of the future. Then you may arrive in the here and now, the only place your spirit has any creative power while in a body. By accepting responsibility for being the creator of your reality and all your mental states, you have the power to be free and to create anything you want, including the completion of karma, and freedom from the past and future. Having cleared yourself, you may simply play in the here and now.
You create your own reality. Whatever you're getting right now is exactly what you want to get. No "if"s, "and"s, or "but"s. The bottom line of knowing what you really believe is to look at your experience. I create every aspect of my life. If ever I think I'm getting other than what I want, I need to examine my ego lies and find out why I want things I don't like. Overcoming a lifetime of programming into a cultural set of beliefs is not in the least a trivial pursuit, however.
People who love themselves enough to be willing to receive in abundance the love and light of source are healthy, vital, and they are Immune Sufficient. When they connect with someone else they connect on all levels... they create divine and joyous spiritual union, a deeply committed love bond, and a passionate sexual union. They are open and honest and loving with each other. They share all of themselves and all the love and light of the great spirit they are capable of bringing into their incarnation. Their hearts are open... to spirit, and to each other. They do not just "sex" each other.
The heart chakra is the center of affinity and love, for self and for others, from self and from others. The heart chakra rules the immune system. To have a healthy immune system which is sufficient to resist AIDS, is to be totally in the bliss of the love and light of source... to be in the state of ecstasy. The heart chakra and the crown chakra are the primary points of connection between spirit and body, a connection, or more aptly a marriage, which produces the personality. It is here that the light of Self and source manifest into the body, and from there connect with another incarnate being. Yes, we can connect on just the spiritual/psychic realms, but our true power as divine humans is the manifestation of our spiritual essence in the holy vehicle of the human body. Every state (of being) or act (of doing) of love is divine. Our entire essence is divine, and every aspect of our incarnation is divine. To be healthy is to realize this... to recognize, honor, respect and love the divine essence within each and every one of us, and most of all to recognize it when we connect in our love making. The most important aspect of our lives is to love each other, and to not just sex each other.
You don't have to be married, by church or state to create spiritual marriage. You don't have to love each other to sex each other, nor sex each other to love each other. But the union of two incarnate spirits is a divine event worthy of recognition by all involved. It can be all very fun to raise the intensity of union with lust, but the danger therein is that of forgetting that it is more than "sex". It can be very nice to be polygamous, but the danger therein is creating enough diversity so as to be able to avoid ever really achieving deep intimacy and love with any one of those partners, much less many, most, or all of them. Too many people are practicing "safe sex" or "unsafe sex" where the essential factor is that they are busily having sex without bothering to have love, for self or others. Because if one truly loved one self, then one would be creating a world, a life, a set of experiences where all the sexual unions one engaged in would be recognized and experienced as the divine loving unions they are. To experience SAFE sex, one must be safe. In self, with others. One must be operating from self love, self worth, self awareness (including awareness of one's divine spiritual nature). One must be uniting with others out of that Self center, reaching out to give and receive love, not out of need... need to be loved as as substitute for missing self love, need to be sexed as a substitute for truly intimate and loving spiritual union consummated in physical intercourse.
It's entirely possible to spend a whole night practicing "safe sex" with a variety of people, and not once create real intimacy or love. Do enough "safe sex" and you can create a life devoid of love and intimacy, just like people did with "unsafe sex" before the AIDS epidemic. Nothing's really changed... except that "the pill" helped create and "safe sex" helps perpetuate an environment where it is possible, not necessary, to experience lots of sex without much love or intimacy. The danger is failing to love yourself and each other while you're sexing.
And herein lies the most difficult awareness and growth. Many people think they know what love is, when they're only experiencing infatuation, or neediness. Many many relationships are based on a "love" of mutual need gratification. "If you'll play that role for me, I'll play this role for you, and then we'll each have in the other what we want".... classic romantic love. That thrill of finding the one you've been looking for... the perfect mate who fulfills you(r every need). No... true love is much more a "calm" than an excitement. And there's total freedom to be and to do. Monogamy is not something you commit to or make into a condition about the relationship... it's something which may or may not happen just because it feels right, not because you're afraid of losing your ideal partner to someone else, should they love and or sex another.
When you reach that ecstatic state of self love and self awareness, being filled with the light and love of source, you will truly see the divine in everyone and find that you are open to love everyone. There will be those who are not so open, who simply are not ready to receive the abundant love you have to offer. There will be those for whom you don't have strong affinity even though you love them. But mostly it's a matter of losing specialness. Each person becomes special in their own way, or it comes to be that nobody is particularly special, because you see the beauty of divinity in each. And when you meet someone who is similarly "en-lightened" it will be difficult to not share the light with each other. And that will tend to become sexual some percentage of the time. And the kind of people you find sharing this with you will be, like you, too much in self love to be creating for themselves, experiences where they are hurting themselves, either directly or via others. Or by AIDS.
It is a metaphysical axiom that, that which you resist you become / you get. Fear is a form of resistance. By putting energy into fear of AIDS, you are helping to create it in your own private reality. It is far better to focus on positive desires and the expectation that you will manifest that which you desire, than to worry (expected future anger) or fear AIDS. Don't worry, and don't fear. Instead create deeply loving sexual relationships with people you believe in, you love, you trust, and who test AIDS negative, as do all their partners. Create a safe space for normal healthy loving sex without condoms. Their presence only reinforces fear. Instead of running around "safe sex"ing people, and always having that nagging fear of AIDS in the back of your mind every time you open a condom package, give yourself the self-loving freedom to make love with people who love you, and reaffirm that love by not using condoms. If you don't feel safe enough with a person to have intercourse without a condom, then don't sex them. You must overcome Fear with Love. Love creates Immune Sufficiency. Fear creates the thing feared. There is nothing more healing than love, both giving and receiving. There is nothing as destructive as living in fear, attracting into your reality that which you fear. Although hate runs close.
I recently found myself withdrawing my love and sex from a partner because I'd gone into fear that their sexual practices might not be safe enough, when deep in my soul I knew they were safe, but other partners of mine had put their fear in my space. I wound up denying the ability of one of my partners to create a safe and loving life, out of other peoples fear, and in the process I withdrew love. I went into fear. I began to help create AIDS in someone I very dearly love. It's SO easy to project our own limitations onto other people, and try to make them like us, as limited as we are. It takes a lot of self love to give others the freedom to create a reality "better" than ours, rather than asking them to limit themselves down to our level of havingness out of "love" for us. And so I have to ask my other partners why they would rather have me love someone else less, rather than more. Jealousy? A lack of their own self love being covered by my love for them? Yes. Why do people do this when they could instead choose to create a world where there is an abundance of love by and for self, by and for others, by and for source? Guilt? Lack of deservingness? Fear? All it really takes is willingness! Being willing to receive love seems to be the most difficult obstacle for each of us. The universe's ultimate validation of that lack of willingness is AIDS.
As long as we run around looking outside ourselves, blaming something else outside of us, like the AIDS virus, and refusing to take responsibility for creating our own reality, then we have no power over it, to heal it, to change it. Only by taking responsibility for our creation, our reality, do we have any power. We so easily give away our free will and our power in order to avoid taking responsibility. Rather than running around fearing AIDS and using condoms to protect against some external threat (a virus), we need to turn within, and seek out where and how and why we may be choosing to be unwilling to be loved.
Usually, the answer is out of fear of being hurt, out of fear of pain... People close their hearts in order to avoid feeling pain. But that closing also prevents love from coming in, and from going out. The only way to be healthy, to be immune sufficient, to be alive, young, free, joyous, ecstatic, is to be willing to keep your heart open, no matter how much pain you feel. People want to believe that they can live a life filled with ecstatic joy without ever feeling pain. But the actual choice you have to make is simply whether to feel or not, to allow yourself to be open to others or not. If you believe that the universe is loving and giving, and that others are basically good, then you will be able to open, to remain open, to feel some pain, and lots of joy, to receive and to give love, to be young and vital, aware and happy, to be immune sufficient. It's when you go into fear and believe that the universe is unloving and hurtful, that you close your heart... to love, to life... and open it to AIDS.
Safe Sex is sex you have with someone whose heart is wide open... to you, to life, to love, to others, and most especially to the light and love of source, the source of all life. And that boundless joy and ecstasy of being wide open is something you will not be able to restrict to yourself, or to only one other person. You will not succumb to the poison of specialness, the lie that you can "really" only "love" one other special person. true love is self love, and having that, you will simply open your heart, without condition, to All- That-Is. You may choose as appropriate for yourself to sexually mate with only one person, or with many, but your heart will openly radiate the light of love which fills you, the light of your spirit, shining for all to see, and be warmed by.
You can reach enlightenment just by "running your energy". This is a term we use for a specific (what we belive most appropriate) pattern of flow of spiritual energy within the physical body, associated with an alternate state of consciousness. The longer you do this each day, the quicker you progress. Also, you can utilize sexual intercourse to develop the ability to raise the kundalini energy, which should run up the spine, awakening the chakras of higher consciousness. We are taught both to run earth and cosmic energy, and to run kundalini energy, without sex, in my psychic classes, without getting into yogic breathing patterns, Buddhist sitting patterns, etc. This is in affinity with the right-hand Tantrik path, the path of non-sexual but partner-coupled energy sharing. We also teach the left-hand Tantrik path which specifically includes sexual coupling as a technique to facilitate the awakening and arousal of kundalini in a partner-coupled energy sharing. Spiritual awareness and ability greatly enhance sexual union. Likewise sexual union may be utilized in the furtherance of spiritual growth towards enlightenment. They become intertwined in left-hand Tantra. Angela is a Tantrik Yogi/Yogini, master of both polarities in union, fully mastering the invocation of both the Yin and Yang archetype, and the utilization of both the yin and yang energy.
Angela
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