catherine yronwode wrote:
> 
> I just want to put in a word for the biochemical basis of
> soul-matedness: a soul-mate will invariably SMELL good to you.
> 
> catherine (pheromones "R" us) yronwode

Yes, indeed. The sense of smell bypasses the ego/personality
and directly affects the brain and the endocrine system.
The partner who smells good is the genetically compatible BODY.
This is the most appropriate method of determining who to
have babies with. The use of pheromones and perfumes allows
people to seduce partners into inappropriate partnering. 
Thus the ages-old concept of "smelling like a prostitute"...
the excessive use of perfume to render the female to smell
compatible with ANY male. Because this is all about genetics
of the BODY, it has nothing to do with SOUL mating. There is
nothing wrong with lots of good fun body mating, unless it
is harmful to the soul through incompatible astral/etheric
energy merging with the wrong soul. The use of pheromones
and/or perfume facilitates the increased probability of such
inappropriate mating. Because women in particular tend to
bond with whoever they permit themselves to have sex with,
there is a strong tendency to stay with inappropriate partners,
once sexual mating ocurrs. Therefore, it would be better to
use such entrancing aromatherapy to rejuvenate an appropriate
soul mating where the sexual relationship is waning, than to
use it to attract and choose partners in the first place,
who will only be compatible with the perfume, not the woman.

Hasan Malik wrote:
> 
> What is a soulmate?  Can anyone tell me?
     The short answer is:
Someone who is mated with you at the soul level.
     The long answer would be required for your next questions...
< What is a soul? What kinds of mating are there?
     The medium length answer is:
If you don't know your own soul essence and have soul level
consciousness, then knowing what a soul mate is won't do you
much good, because you won't recognize one when you meet them.
So, replace your question with: Who am I at the soul level? When
you raise your consciousness to that level, you'll know what a
soul mate is.

85% of the humans on planet Terra are with the wrong people for
the wrong reasons... meaning they're not soul mates but ego
mates... and/or karma mates...

If you understand the difference between soul and spirit...
which would involve opening up the higher chakras and developing
clairvoyance or clairsentience or clairaudience of the
etheric/spiritual dimension... then you may begin to be able to
distinguish between soul mates (of which there can be a nearly
infinite number), and twin flames (the yin yang split of a dual
spirit). Some spirits are singular; most, especially those
predominantly embodied as humans, are created in yin yang
pairs... twin flames... But this level is above the oversoul
level. Thus a twin flame pair is any one of the souls of the
yin-flame oversoul mated with any one of the souls of the
yang-flame oversoul. Soul mating could be within the same
oversoul, or with any stranger (same or different oversoul) with
whom you form a soul level bond.

Soul is the marriage of the spirit with the body... Though there
are traditions on this planet which swap the labels spirit and
soul. The spirit aspect of a soul will typically have multiple
incarnations... i.e. the body aspect is released at "death of
the body".

Souls tend to reincarnate in a series of one sex human body and
then they switch and incarnate in a series of opposite sex
bodies. 85% of Gay or Lesbian or Trans-Gendered humans are
experiencing their first body of the opposite sex after a series
of incarnations in one sex body... and haven't yet gotten used
to either being in the kind of body they now have, or haven't
gotten used to being attracted to the same sex which has now
become the opposite sex. Give them a lifetime or a few.

So, what's a soul mate... whoever you're with if you bond at the
soul level. Umpteen other people of both sexes who are part of
your oversoul group, or of the oversoul group of your twin-flame
spirit. Anyone you have karma with from this or previous
lifetimes. Anyone you're dharmically compatible with. Anyone
vibrating at the same soul vibration level.

Note that when you meet a soul mate you may detest them (ego
incompatibility). Note that if you like someone, that may be ego
compatibility and not a soul mate at all, though you could build
soul mating with them.

Ego mates work from the lower chakras upwards... and may awake
to discover they're with someone spiritually inappropriate... 
which may be incentive to shut-off higher consciousness in order 
to retain relationship.

Soul mates work from the higher chakras downwards, and initially
may have many ego conflicts, but know that they'll only grow
more compatible as they each deconstruct ego and raise
consciousness to soul level and spirit level.

Now, as for the long answer to your question... 
I teach that in my classes... 
and it involves raising consciousness through meditation.

Namrael3 wrote:
> 
> >85% of the humans on planet Terra are with the wrong people for
> >the wrong reasons... meaning they're not soul mates but ego
> >mates... and/or karma mates...
> 
> >Souls tend to reincarnate in a series of one sex human body and
> >then they switch and incarnate in a series of opposite sex
> >bodies. 85% of Gay or Lesbian or Trans-Gendered humans are
> >experiencing their first body of the opposite sex after a series
> >of incarnations in one sex body... and haven't yet gotten used
> >to either being in the kind of body they now have, or haven't
> >gotten used to being attracted to the same sex which has now
> >become the opposite sex. Give them a lifetime or a few.
> 
> where are you getting these statistics?  you've got some interesting ideas
> here, but you speak of them so factually.  care to explain?

When you look at the sky and declare the color of the sunset,
and the person next to you looks at the sky and agrees that yes
the sunset is red with orange tinges over there, and you say,
yep, shure is... where do you get your information?

FROM DIRECT OBSERVATION.

Those with open third eyes who see spiritual dimensions directly,
simply do the same thing. And after two or three of you look at
what's going on with your third eye and agree on what you are seeing,
you all say together, yep, shure is...

FROM DIRECT OBSERVATION.

Just as you will not be able to convince the physically blind man
next to you that you are accurate in your assessment of the color
of the sunset, I cannot convince any psychically blind person
that what I and other psychics see is "true". 

So take it or leave it... I don't play the "prove it" game.
I really do not care what you believe, or whether that has any
correlation with what I and other psychics see. 

I speak with as much certainty about what I see,
especially when confirmed by others with open third eyes,
as you would about what you observe with your two eyes.

If you want proof, then develop your clairvoyant "seeing".
There is no physical world proof which proves what is true
in higher dimensions to people blind to higher dimensions...
All I can say is that I too used to not be able to see
with the third eye, and had the same "prove it" attitude.
That is healthy. Thank you for your skepticism. But if you
truly desire to see, then set it aside and allow the miracle
of psychic sight to enter your life. Or disbelieve in that
being possible and preclude that happening in your life.
It's your choice. You create your reality. I just choose
to live with fewer limits, and have done the work to clear
them from my life, including my childhood of atheism where
spirit was not only not visible, but didn't even exist.

Copyright 1998 Angela Kahealani